How can you get rid of toxic people, the ones who drain your energy weighing you down?
I guess you have met people who make you feel drained every time they are around.
Those who only complain and blame people or circumstances and criticize every initiative you may have.
The people who see the glass half empty instead of half full, the ones who pull you back instead of pushing you forward.
They are the ones who distract you from your positive and productive habits. They discourage you from chasing your dreams. They make you think you are not good enough to live a life on your own terms.
Toxic people get you stuck in the past and focused on the negative side of the coin, instead of the positive one.
But this way you cannot move forward, you cannot progress and evolve, on the contrary, you can only regress.
By mingling with people who don't support us in getting the best out of ourselves we end up getting involved in toxic relationships that not only ruin our days but destroy our mental and physical health too.
SOMETHING TO BEAR IN MIND
Harvard University carried out a study that showed that the number one key to having a long, happy and healthy life was not the food that you eat.
It wasn't even the number of times you go to the gym.
The number one factor responsible for fostering the quality of your life was supportive and great relationships.
The Harvard study found that people who had toxic and negative relationships had more health issues and died earlier.
So toxic people aren't just bringing you down mentally and physically, they're actually killing you slowly!
WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN A FLOWER DOESN’T GROW?
When a flower doesn't grow you don't change the flower, you change the environment of the flower.
You make sure it gets more sun, and the necessary amount of water; in a nutshell, you take better care of it.
So if you are not growing or you are stuck in a rut perhaps it's not 100% your fault.
It might be due to the people who are around you that are holding you back.
Think for a moment, when you look around yourself at the people you spend most of the time with, how do you feel?
Do you feel energized, do you feel excited and motivated to keep pursuing your goals; or do you feel physically and mentally drained?
Do you need a new environment, to hang out with new people maybe?
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with”. - Jim Rohn
Don’t waste your time and energy with toxic people when you could enhance the quality of your life by surrounding yourself with empowering, like-minded people.
Time and energy are two things that you cannot get back, and toxic people are taking both away from you!
WHY ARE THE WRONG PEOPLE SO ATTRACTIVE? WHY IS IT DIFFICULT TO ESCAPE FROM THEM?
We are creatures of habit, hence we tend to stick to what we already know. We tend to prefer what is familiar even when it is bad for us. We fear the unknown.
Furthermore, we can get stuck in toxic relationships wishing that the people we associate with will finally change.
At some point, however, all you can do is accept that some people around you will never change.
If there's one thing for sure it is that you cannot change other people.
Think about how hard it is to change yourself.
What makes you think it's easier to change other people then?
Surrounding yourself with the wrong people is like trying to breathe life into something that's already dead.
You need to let them go, you can love and appreciate them for the part they played in your life, but you need to love yourself enough to let them go.
Every day you're writing the book of your life.
It's time to turn the page and stop reading the same old chapter you already know.
Think about it this way; you are in control of where your story goes from here onwards.
You only have to make sure that you have the right supporting cast.
HOW TO GET RID OF TOXIC PEOPLE - 2 WAYS
It can be difficult to eliminate someone from your life.
However, if you have your life at heart, it is important you take action.
Here are 2 possible ways you can get rid of toxic people:
1) BECOME INVISIBLE
You can start to break away from negative toxic people slowly.
Perhaps continuing to see each other but declining one invitation, then two, and gradually intensifying your "absence" till you cut the cord and you become “invisible”.
START SAYING NO MORE OFTEN
Every day, each of us is presented with opportunities, which aren’t all positive though.
As a matter of fact, most of them are a source of stress and further problems.
How many times have you said YES to someone and regretted it shortly after?
Next time you are offered an opportunity, take the time to think about it.
On the contrary, if you feel stuck in your comfort zone, it's a great idea to start saying YES.
But if your life is full of toxic relationships you should really learn to say NO.
You don't need to spend more time with negative toxic people, but as little as possible.
HOW YOU CAN LEARN TO SAY NO
Here is a simple but effective way you can apply to learn to say NO and to live with greater awareness.
When you are about to spend time with people, ask yourself these 3 questions:
- Is it necessary?
- Is it beneficial for my general well-being and personal growth?
- Is it a thruster towards my goals?
If the answer to all three questions is NO, then you should avoid spending time with those people.
2) DISAPPEAR
How can you get rid of toxic people more quickly? By disappearing completely, all of a sudden.
Why should you bother about how people who have a negative impact on you may feel if you disappear all of a sudden?
You are the one who can choose the relationships that surround you, for the better or for the worse.
Don’t be afraid, take action and you will soon regain your lost vitality again.
TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS ARE STOPPING YOU FROM BECOMING YOUR BEST SELF AND LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE
We, humans, are social beings, hence people represent one of the most important parts of our lives. They influence our thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and ultimately the outcomes we get.
If they don’t build you up, if they don’t support you, they have to go.
How many people around you are making you more negative? How many people around you are making you less happy bringing joy and peace out of your life?
If someone is restricting you, maybe it’s high time you let go of them.
Maybe you should find some people that want you to succeed, that make you think bigger, that make you happier, that are positive, and find the good in things even when bad things happen.
It is time to search for those new relationships that can give you rather than take away from you.
This is not selfishness, but self-love!
It is the antidote to toxic relationships and the basic element of a peaceful and balanced life.
FINAL THOUGHTS
Influencing others and being influenced is a continuous process that happens almost automatically.
For this reason, the quality of the people we meet and we spend time with is not something to take lightly or overlook.
Leave the negative behind you and allow those with ideas and optimism to be part of your life journey.
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When you think about it it’s obvious that spending time with people who support you will be more beneficial than with people who pull you down. But first you have to stop and think about it. Then even when you know every now and then you have to stop and remember it. Thanks for reminding me this today 🙂
You are very welcome Mikolaj😃
It’s easy to forget about important things in the frenetic pace of everyday life, also of something as important as the influence that toxic people have on us.
Let’s be cautious of the people we spend most of our time with😉