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WHEN EVERYTHING DOESN’T GO THE WAY YOU’D LIKE

Have you studied hard for an exam, but failed it?

Have you applied for your dream job and put in a lot of work, but in vain?

Have you ever broken your neck trying to make a project or relationship work, and ended up being fired or dumped?

Have you ever started a business giving your best, and come up short with your sales? 

Sometimes, things don’t work out the way we would like them to, and often it’s not even our fault.

How often have things turned out different than you planned and felt disappointed and self-doubting? 

This is something that happens to all of us!

When it occurs, it’s easy to come up with the conclusion that Life, the Universe, God, or whatever you believe in is conspiring against us.

Way too often, as a result, we surrender and give up on our goals.

But, what if we changed our perspective and assumed that everything happens for a reason?

Our attitude would change completely!

We would no longer see an unexpected event as something traumatic but as an opportunity to become better and improve.

“When we change the way we look at things the things we look at will change”. - Dr. Wayne Dyer

When you believe that everything happens for you and not to you, you stop being pessimistic and become optimistic. 

This can prompt strength, motivation, and perseverance.

As a result, the way you look at things and your attitude to life enable you to move forward and accomplish things you couldn’t dream about.

In the future looking back at what has occurred in your life, you’ll be able to connect the dots and see the whole picture.

sequence of number dots revealing the image of Pikachu
the sequence of number dots revealing the image of Pikachu

Everything then will make sense. 

Remember: although you cannot control unexpected situations you can control your response!

This makes the difference in how you feel and how you deal with what goes on in your life, ultimately the outcomes you get. 

When you accept that life is not static, but dynamic; that you cannot experience ups, without experiencing downs; that first you have to walk through the dark to see the light at last; in a nutshell, when you accept that the shit can suddenly hit the fan, you are more likely to achieve your goals. 

You are ready to face whatever comes your way.

You look at it as a test sent to you to assess whether you are ready to experience success. 

You can be the actor in your life who is being directed by the events that occur. 

Or, you can choose to become the director and producer of your life.

It’s your choice!

It all comes down to how you respond to the hardships you need to face during your journey.

Trust yourself and the Universe, there is always a reason why something happens. Be faithful even in the hardest times.

Learn from every knockdown, and be willing to get back up.

"You may not be responsible for getting knocked down. But you're certainly responsible for getting back up". - Wally Amos

I want to share with you a video that made me feel emotional and that stresses what I mentioned above.


I truly believe that the Universe supports us in the same way as Derek Redmond’s father did, provided we get back up on our feet.

Life is about choices and how you respond to the curveballs life throws at you. 

Remember: the Universe acts for you to make your dreams come true, but you must choose to never give up and keep getting up and moving forward instead.

Once, Derek Redmond was asked: What is your definition of success? 

“To me, getting up one more time than you’ve been knocked down. It’s all you’ve got to do. Just get up one more time than you’ve been knocked down”.

Getting up is what separates a winner from a loser, an achiever from a failure.

I am curious to know what feelings the video has triggered in you, and I really hope it has inspired you to finish what you have started.

hand holding a brush painting the path to a man
hand holding a brush painting the path to a man

The Universe acts for you not against you, keep moving and achieve your goals. 

Make the lyrics of the song ‘You Raise Me Up’ by Josh Groban your own: 

When I am down and, oh my soul, so weary

When troubles come and my heart burdened be

Then, I am still and wait here in the silence

Until You come and sit awhile with me.

You raise me up, so I can stand on mountains

You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas

I am strong when I am on your shoulders

You raise me up to more than I can be


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2 thoughts on “WHEN EVERYTHING DOESN’T GO THE WAY YOU’D LIKE”

  1. That is a beautiful post, the video clip made me tearful but so inspiring.
    It’s easy to give up and quit when things don’t go how we plan.
    The hardest thing is to get up through the darkness, through the hard times ….
    no matter how many times we may fall we must keep getting up however tired we are , however hard and long the road may be we got to keep going.
    I have, like many gone through dark and hard times in life , I’ve been low, cried, screamed
    questioned a lot of things and wrongly not proud of but had lost my faith at one point .
    Then I realised It was a matter of choice , either continue to live in darkness, giving up questioning life , God.
    Or I ask for forgiveness and forgive myself.
    In the times of darkness , I learned ,
    I grew , I became stronger because giving up
    Surrendering to it all was not an option.

    1. Every time we get back up from a setback we become stronger and stronger.

      As the saying goes: what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger!

      I do really believe that everything happens for a reason, so do the struggles.

      What is important is to get up and keep moving forward, and this is exactly what you have been doing Christine, well done.

      Keep up the hard work and you’ll be rewarded 👌👍

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